Cross Breeds

Where should I stay when I visit my friends?

I'm visiting the city where I used to live for a four day weekend. I have two invitations, one from a close girl friend and one from the guy I'm dating long distance. At the girl friend's house, I'll sleep on her futon, and her three cats will climb on my head. At the guy's house, I'll sleep in his very posh bed with his very posh sheets. And, you know, with him. At some point during my visit I'd sleep with him anyway, probably more than once. So the bed is nice and the arrangement is convenient. But the length of the visit is what gives me pause. We're sort of "you wanna grab breakfast?" sleeping together, not "you wanna move in?" sleeping together. I'm worried it'll be awkward. I'll want to go out with other friends too, probably without him, so that raises all kindsa questions. Will he assume I'll spend every evening w/him? Will he give me an extra key? For that matter, I'm worried that dodging out on my girl friend to stay over with the guy will be awkward too.

Public Comments

1. I'm sure your girlfriend will understand if you stay with your boyfriend especially since it's long distance relationship.im sure he would expect you to hang out with her and do your own thing so i wouldn't worrie to much about that.
2. If the guy's invited you, stay w/him. Maybe it'll be awkward, but it'll be a good, fast way to see how compatible you actually are, like can you manage spending that much time together and so on. Also, it sounds like his bed is much better for sleeping than the friend's futon. A girl needs her beauty sleep!